2 Week Challenge – Day 10

Let him know you want him.

You’re on Day 10! Congratulations. I’m so excited for you.

Now let’s chat a little bit about a woman’s ‘wifely duty.” Oh man, how we hate that phrase, wifely duty. But you are called to be your husbands helper, and that is a fantastic task. (Gen 2:18, 21-22)

A woman who fulfills her “wifely duties” out of obligation does not produce a sexually fulfilled husband. If you are having sex because you feel like you have to, rather than making love because you want to, your husband can tell. Think of it this way. How would you feel if your husband came home from work on you anniversary, handed you you a dozen roses, and said, “I didn’t really want to get you these roses. Seems like a waste of money to me. But I read somewhere I’m supposed to do something like this because it’s our anniversary. Here – hope you enjoy them.” Would you enjoy such a presentation? I’d throw those babies right in the trash. And yet, that’s how many woman approach their marriage bed.

Husband’s dream of their wives initiating sex more often. “But what will he think of me?” you wonder. “Will he think I’m a sexed-crazed woman?” He might hope that’s what you are, but he won’t think that. He might be utterly confused at the sudden desire, but one message will come across loud and clear. “She wants me! She wants me!” You know what he’ll feel? He’ll feel like his dreams have come true.

What a husband really wants is for his wife to be as excited and enthusiastic about making love as he is. Your husband’s sexuality is so much a part of who he is that is affects virtually every part of his life.

Author Sheila Wray Gregoire reminds us: It’s hard for you husband to believe you are proud of him, and you’re happy to be married to him, if you don’t also want him sexually – if you never initiate sex. It’s men’s ultimate self-esteem issue. And the best way to address it is if we, every now and then, actually initiate.

Sheila Wray Gregoire

I’m not suggesting that a man wants his wife to initiate sex all the time. That isn’t the natural order of things. God created man to be the aggressor and woman to be the recipient. Even our bodies are crafted for such. Men are hunters and women are gatherers. But I can promise you every man likes to feel hunted and captured by the woman of his dreams.

2 Week Challenge – Day 10

  • Make his favorite dessert and eat dinner by candlelight.
  • Post “I love being your wife” on his facebook
  • Do something fun and unexpected together such as laser tag, horseback riding, go karting, zip lining or go to a shooting range. A picnic, comedy performance, or a ballroom class are all fun ideas.
  • Create a romantic setting in a room other than your bedroom. Surprise your husband by leading him into the room for a special rendezvous with you.

Lord, help me to let my husband know that I want him. Help me to initiate sexual intimacy more often, and help me to show him that I want him. Teach me how to make him feel adored and good enough. Lord I know at times I have entered my marriage bed out of duty, forgive me and help me to see it as a privilege. Change me Lord, so that I can become a better spouse to my husband. I pray this in Jesus name, AMEN.

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